Married Singles

How do we get past the isolation?

by Paul Faulkner (10/19/2007) | Making Life Work for Your Family

So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate (Matthew 19:6 TNIV).

Communication is to love what blood is to the body. And when communication stops, love begins to die. Research validates that poor communication is the main problem in eighty-six percent of troubled marriages.

They will never truly become one.

The key to a relationship in depth is communication in depth. Husbands and wives should discuss goals and analyze ambitions with total honesty. They should seek solutions and rejoice together or they will never truly become one. They will remain what some people call "married singles."

Mature love, Christian love, doesn’t come in a spasm of emotion, but through negotiation and acceptance and forgiveness and self-discipline. You have to work at real love. Set a time to talk regularly with your spouse about things that matter to both of you.

About the Author

Dr. Faulkner was the very first person of note and influence who shared his content with us at HEARTLIGHT.org beginning in 1996.

Paul Faulkner taught on the Abilene Christian University campus full-time for 35 years. He was honored in 1982 as the university’s Teacher of the Year. He has written several books and was a much sought-after speaker and seminar leader along with his Marriage Enrichment partner, Dr. Carl Brecheen. Dr. Faulkner mentored many ministers and church leaders, shared his loving homespun humor and wisdom through many channels, and endeared himself to thousands. Our dear friend and mentor went to be with the Lord in 2022, but his legacy lives on in the lives of those he touched and made better.